Parent Code of Conduct
Parent/Coach Relationship
Both parenting and coaching are extremely difficult vocations. By establishing an understanding of each position, we are better able to accept the actions of the others and provide greater benefit to our children. As parents, when your children become involved in our program, you have a right to understand what expectations are placed on your child. This begins with clear communication from the coach of your child's program.
Communication you should expect from your child's coach:
Expectations the coach has for all players regarding behavior, conduct, and work ethic.
Locations and times of all practices and contests.
Team requirements ie., fees, special equipment, and off-season conditioning.
Procedure should your child be injured during participation.
Discipline that results in the denial of your child's participation.
Communication coaches expect from parents:
Concerns expressed directly to the coach in a respectful way. Making a scene at games, having an attitude towards the coach, or other forms of expression that will not be beneficial to your child or to a resolution of those concerns are not beneficial to the player, parents, or coach.
Notification of any schedule conflicts that will make the player miss practices or games well in advance. Not doing this may result in your child being disciplined and that discipline will be decided on by the coaching staff. This may include running, game suspensions, etc.
Notification directly to the coach if there are problems meeting certain requirements (i.e.) fees, off-season conditioning, etc.
If your children are involved in the athletic programs at Houston High School, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their lives. It is important to understand that there also may be times when things do not go the way you or your child wishes. At these times, it is important to remember to communicate yourself respectfully and effectively to the coach.
Appropriate concerns to discuss with coaches:
The treatment of your child.
Ways to help your child improve.
Concerns about your child's behavior.
It is very difficult to accept your child's not playing as much as you may hope. Coaches are professionals. They make judgment decisions based on what they believe to be best for all student-athletes involved and for the team. As you may have seen from the list above, certain things can be and should be discussed with your child's coach. The following things must be left to the discretion of the coach. Our coaches will not discuss the following thing with you.
Inappropriate concerns to discuss with coaches:
Playing time.
Team strategy.
Play calling.
Other student-athletes.
Communication Between Parent, Player, and Coach
Appropriate forms of communication to players and coaches during and directly after a game situation:
Cheer for the team and your son individually if he does something good on the floor.
Encourage the team when things are going well and when they are not going so well.
Sitting together as parents and cheering as a group does wonders for the kids and chemistry.
Cheering for all of the kids equally shows that you truly do care about team success and not just your sons.
Inappropriate forms of communication to players and coaches during and directly after a game situation.
Yelling negative things about coaching or strategy. This is not beneficial to the parent, coach, or player.
Tearing down or yelling at players, especially other peoples children, from the stands.
Profanity of any kind.
Speaking directly to any player or coach during the game for any reason.
The player has to hear one voice, and that voice is the coachs voice. Talking to your child during a practice or game only sends the child mixed messages, confuses him, undermines what the coach is trying to accomplish, and takes his focus off what it needs to be on, the game.
Please do not attempt to confront the coach before or after a practice or contest.
These confrontations can be emotional for both the parent and the coach and embarrassing for the player. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolutions and are not beneficial to the player, parent, or coach. If you desire to communicate with the coach, simply e-mail the coach or call the school at 901-756-2300 to set up an appointment.
* Please also respect the privacy of our gym. Practices are closed to anyone who is not a coach or a player on the Houston High Boy's Basketball Team.
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